Talking, right? Two people talking, right? Two people sharing a conversation? Being honest about how you feel; and mindful of the person you are telling? Discussing decisions with partner before making them? Being open and honest?
Yes,yes,yes,yes. Strictly speaking it is all only effective with the acceptance of the ground rules for what actual communication looks like. That is the dialogue. The elements of 2 people in a conversation. The following was news to me at 21 years of age:
One person begins to talk. The other STOPS and listens to the one talking until they have stopped. Then the person that had been talking STOPS and waits. The one whom had been listening considers what was said, and after clarify( if necessary) what the other has said by asking them in the form of repeating what they said, they now speak. Then they STOP and wait, while the other person considers what they said and responds.
Some might think this humorous, I don't know. I thought it was kinda neet when I first saw that. I had never really considered there was a sort of edicate to talking.
I challenge one to conform to it. By my becoming conscious of this info; I found myself learning something I hadn't been seeing that I did a lot of. That is that most of the time when you were talking I wasn't really listening. I could hardly wait til you shut up so I could talk most of the time. MEN especially are quilty of this. Women's number one complaint, " He doesn't listen".

I have to admit one of the best communications I have had was when I just asked a friend to sit silently with me while I cried. It meant so much that he did not try to fix what couldn't be fixed or minimize my grief with words. It was simple silence that said to me "I know you hurt, and I am here with you."

There is no time frame in a dialogue. Not in a relationship where love is first,last, and always. It can be understood as maturity or spirituality. The peace and growth of the other is uppermost in each others' heart. The fundamentals of conversation; listen while the other is talking applies,and has NO substitute. Whether it is talk or listen that 'appears' to be at what 'appears' to be the conclusion, it is ALWAYS concluding with LISTENING. To recognize when others are unselfish and give to us takes consideration and unselfishness to see; especially when we are only thankful.
Imagine 2 people who always have the happiness of the other uppermost in mind. It is a given, here, that the 2 do love one another. It is a given that they understand and accept themselves just as they are. It is a given too, that their relationship with each other is NOT the most important thing in each one of their lives. Each CAN imagine life without the other, and are together because they choose to be.
I never saw healthy nurturing relationships as a child.
I learned about love through experience. It is by 'accident' that I learned about love. I still learn. As a matter of fact, learning was the first thing I learned about love. That is; that 'love', is a learned experience. I don't 'fall' in love; I grow in love. 'Falling in love' is lust. People like to dress up there imaginary sex excursions as dreams of romance. Love isn't concerned with sex; it is concerned with continuing. Although love hopes and it dreams,it doesn't plan a thing. It doesn't wait on time, it waits on welcome. Love commits to love. Love and tolerance is the code by which truly spiritual people live.
Until I could let people go, by discontinuing relationships, I could not commit to anyone freely. That is, until one has the character and courage to end trivial relations, or end unhealthy relationships, one is not free to love and commit. Also one cannot love any ONE more without loving EVERYONE more.
For those of you who wish to meet, or be with that someone 'special', whom you can share love with, I have only one suggestion via experience. That is, LIVE IN LOVE.
The only way to 'find' love is to start loving. Loving is attractive.