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Posted February 3, 2012 by Charlie Van Dyke in Life Challenges and Loss
By Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs
From Huffington Post
How does someone maintain a relationship with God when one describes one's life as: dull, miserable, demeaning, undignified and intolerable? If one believes that God is all-loving and all powerful, how then can one turn to God for help?
This question arose for me when I was reading an article about Tony Nicklinson who is living in what is called a "locked-in syndrome." Mr. Nicklinson suffered a paralyzing stroke seven years ago. Prior to his stroke, he was a very active rugby player who "had a high-flying job as a corporate manager in Dubai, where he went skydiving and bridge-climbing in his free time." He is now confined to a wheelchair and can only move his head, cannot speak and needs constant care. His condition is called "locked in" because it is a condition in which a person's body is paralyzed but their mind is intact.
Mr. Nicklinson, who does not want to continue to live, would need someone's help to die. Euthanasia is illegal in England as well as in the USA. And, in England, where Mr. Nicklinson lives, no one suspected of helping a loved one die has been prosecuted for it in recent years. But, Mr. Nicklinson wants to make sure that no one will be prosecuted for helping him and so is asking that a determination be made to that effect.
In all of the articles I have read thus far about this case, there is no mention as to Mr. Nicklinson's faith or belief system and I am not questioning his choice or his motives.
I am not so much taken with his wish to die as I am with this question that arose in me as I was reading the article about him: How can someone maintain a relationship with God when one feels their life is dull, miserable, demeaning, undignified and intolerable? For me, God may feel absent at times, but I usually realize later that it has been me that has been absent, not God.
There is also the defense that I hear from people who believe that God is all-powerful and has His own reasons for "making" someone suffer. That is not my theology and I have never told that to anyone to whom I have ministered. I do believe that God is there to help us get through those difficult times in our lives -- and if you say that God caused something, then you can't go to God to help you through it. I truly believe that things happen in life for which there are no explanations, nor are there reasons -- it could be genetic, environmental, accidental, etc. God is there to help us get through those challenges, not to inflict them. That would be a sadistic God -- and I don't believe that God is a sadist.
So, what do you think? Those of you who believe that there is a God -- how would you maintain a relationship with God when you feel that your life is undignified and intolerable?
From Huffington Post
How does someone maintain a relationship with God when one describes one's life as: dull, miserable, demeaning, undignified and intolerable? If one believes that God is all-loving and all powerful, how then can one turn to God for help?
This question arose for me when I was reading an article about Tony Nicklinson who is living in what is called a "locked-in syndrome." Mr. Nicklinson suffered a paralyzing stroke seven years ago. Prior to his stroke, he was a very active rugby player who "had a high-flying job as a corporate manager in Dubai, where he went skydiving and bridge-climbing in his free time." He is now confined to a wheelchair and can only move his head, cannot speak and needs constant care. His condition is called "locked in" because it is a condition in which a person's body is paralyzed but their mind is intact.
Mr. Nicklinson, who does not want to continue to live, would need someone's help to die. Euthanasia is illegal in England as well as in the USA. And, in England, where Mr. Nicklinson lives, no one suspected of helping a loved one die has been prosecuted for it in recent years. But, Mr. Nicklinson wants to make sure that no one will be prosecuted for helping him and so is asking that a determination be made to that effect.
In all of the articles I have read thus far about this case, there is no mention as to Mr. Nicklinson's faith or belief system and I am not questioning his choice or his motives.
I am not so much taken with his wish to die as I am with this question that arose in me as I was reading the article about him: How can someone maintain a relationship with God when one feels their life is dull, miserable, demeaning, undignified and intolerable? For me, God may feel absent at times, but I usually realize later that it has been me that has been absent, not God.
There is also the defense that I hear from people who believe that God is all-powerful and has His own reasons for "making" someone suffer. That is not my theology and I have never told that to anyone to whom I have ministered. I do believe that God is there to help us get through those difficult times in our lives -- and if you say that God caused something, then you can't go to God to help you through it. I truly believe that things happen in life for which there are no explanations, nor are there reasons -- it could be genetic, environmental, accidental, etc. God is there to help us get through those challenges, not to inflict them. That would be a sadistic God -- and I don't believe that God is a sadist.
So, what do you think? Those of you who believe that there is a God -- how would you maintain a relationship with God when you feel that your life is undignified and intolerable?
James Grayman wrote at February 6, 2012
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"For me, God may feel absent at times, but I usually realize later that it has been me that has been absent, not God."
Took me time to realize that too in my life.
Took me time to realize that too in my life.
Herschel Weinstein wrote at February 6, 2012
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These days I think having a relationship with God while life is giving you lemons is kinda normal.
Back in my day, it would be abnormal.
Back in my day, it would be abnormal.
Shayna Abrams wrote at February 3, 2012
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I have felt precisely this way and that was when I started begging G-d to answer my questions. Give me signs. Let me know that he was there.
And...lo and behold...G-d did that. Since then I try to be strong and remember that G-d is always with me and everything happens for a reason, but sometimes I slip and I need to cry and there G-d is...ready to lift me up in a way that I could have never imagined.
But....before I was able to cry to G-d, I had to believe that G-d was available to cry to.
And...lo and behold...G-d did that. Since then I try to be strong and remember that G-d is always with me and everything happens for a reason, but sometimes I slip and I need to cry and there G-d is...ready to lift me up in a way that I could have never imagined.
But....before I was able to cry to G-d, I had to believe that G-d was available to cry to.
Last Update on February 3, 2012 by Shayna Abrams
James Grayman wrote at February 6, 2012
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Asking constantly, sometimes He will ignore you, but do it yourself and he'll give a helping hand.
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